By: Kalyn Wilson
“Sometimes by losing a battle, you find a new way to win the war.” -Donald Trump
You win some, you lose some. But somewhere along the way, I think we all wake up feeling like we are losing much more than winning. There is no frustrating feeling like that of a failure - and this is a feeling I personally struggled with recently.
Although people preach about how much this is a time for mistakes and exploration, college students know there is a major pressure to be “successful” right now. The world wants our grades to be high, our resume to be loaded and our social life to be rich. But we know that is far from easy. Possible, but not easy.
My main point of concern right now is my resume...and my internship status. I am a part of a rigorous career preparation organization called Management Leadership for Tomorrow (MLT) and through that program, we are able to apply for interviews with some of the top companies in the world - not the country, but the world. So I was excited because, in such a relatively small group of individuals, how could I not get an interview with my dream company? Well, just know I spent a good week boycotting a certain channel because I was so upset that they did not pick me (but of course that didn’t last long once Thursday rolled back around).
It was until this weekend when I was put in a room with all my MLT fellows, Target corporate leaders and other inspiring individuals such as company employees and recruiters that my defeated mentality started to melt. I heard words like, “Pursue your purpose and your passion, and not prizes,” from Jamil Ghani, VP of Enterprise Strategy for Target Corporation, and, “Be resilient,” from Gissell Catellon, another Target Corporation employee. These words and several other lessons-learned from the various sessions of this seminar resonated with me in ways that I really needed.
“It’s not over,” is what I said to my small cohort of fellows who aspire to be in the media and entertainment industry at the end of the seminar. And I finally believed it myself. I was encouraged in the reality that there are missteps on every journey - even Jamil Ghani said there were some in his - and they are not there to stop you. They are there to teach you important lessons and redirect you in the right direction.
While the frustration of failure may still sting, the faith in a bright future remains much more impactful. This weekend gave new meaning to the words “never give up.” These words now mean, “Never let a disappointment stop you in your tracks again.” We all have such a long way to go, and we will get there. But we have to master the first steps before we move on to the grand scheme of things. As cliche as it sounds, time really is of the essence. And this “no” I received no longer sounds like a “never” to me, it just sounds like a “not now.”
Let this be a lesson learned for you, too. Never stop, never quit, never lose sight of the end just because the obstacle in front of you is obstructing your view. Just regroup and keep going. Believe it or not, it’s not over yet, unless you want it to be.