By: Kalyn Wilson
I don’t know about you, but I walk around campus in constant reflection. I think about my story as well as the stories of others and wonder how big the differences among all of us really are.
All the pondering showed me that there is no way for me to tell...at least not unless I actually know the stories of all the other girls around me. Realizing how unlikely that is, I decided to be bold and tell my own story, instead, hoping another girl will hear it and realize that we’re more connected than suspected.
Weeks before I came to school this year, I was compiling my vision board and I ran across an affirmation - something you repeat to yourself in an attempt to evoke positive thoughts - and it stuck to me like none other. This affirmation was I am enough. It never occurred to me before how inadequate I felt and how it all boiled down to whether or not I was enough.
What does enough even mean? On a college campus, it means everything. We’re in a state of constant growth and change, chasing these idealistic images of young, successful women and constantly measuring ourselves to see if we’ve missed the mark:
Is my major going to impress the crowd or make them visualize me sleeping in a car?
Am I beautiful, am I sexy?
Am I nice enough, am I mean enough?
Am involved enough, am I free enough?
Is it okay that I’m single? Is okay that I’m in love?
Am too tall or short, too picky or too easy-going, am I too white or too black, or am I too gray?
Am I doing this right?
These are the real QTNA, questions that need answers. In all we do, we are using these superficial rubrics to grade ourselves - I know I do. And it was until I saw that quote that I was able to answer all those questions and soothe my inner fears.
It’s okay that we deal with competition and insecurities. It’s okay that we shrink next to the other amazing girls sometimes or we second-guess our extraordinary ideas every now and again. But it is not okay to let the challenges of growing up in this intense environment rob us of the truth that validates our being and strengthens us in our unique journey.
That’s right; it’s the truth. Say it with me - I am enough - and believe it.