By: Kalyn Wilson
“Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places.” -Anonymous
Ever felt like you just made all the wrong decisions? In your moments of self-reflection, have you been so startled at your discontentment that you convinced yourself that something went terribly wrong? I have.
Before I move on, I don’t want you to think I hate my life or anything like that. I really love my life and wouldn’t trade it for another’s, even if I was paid a million dollars for it. But I fall in the category of perfectionist planners who believe in setting life goals and sticking to the plan, so since everything has not lined up as I originally imagined, it’s been a tough pill to swallow.
There are times when I sit back and wonder if I could catch my missteps and possibly get things back on track. All this worry stems from looking at my life like a problem to be solved instead of a journey to enjoy.
With that being said, the answer to this question - what did I do wrong? - is: nothing. This does not mean that I haven’t made any mistakes. Instead, it suggests that there is purpose in every mistake I have made, and that the mistakes I made are guiding me to where I am supposed to be rather than preventing me from it.
That’s a tough mentality to have. Although many cultures and religions teach this idea of faith or destiny or fate, we are also taught that we are in control of our lives and we are to blame for most of what happens to us. However, to believe that all your mistakes have meaning merges the two contrasting ideas: yes, you make mistakes and matters are in your own hands, but there are reasons to all that happens and a larger plan unfolding beyond what you experience.
I like to think of it in terms of a GPS. Think about the times when you miss a turn on your trip. What does the GPS do? It reroutes you. It’s not over because there is no one set way to get to where you are headed. (Even if you have to make a U-turn, it’s possible). And you still reach your destination. I believe the same holds true in real life. You make mistakes, you learn from them and you “reroute” yourself. But you still get to where you are headed.
Whatever you do “wrong” - which is a completely relative - is really just a way to teach you and prepare you for the things up ahead, the things really meant for you. What you find sometimes, too, is that the things you really want often align with the things really meant to you, even when it takes a couple of detours to get there.